7 Conversation Starters to Attract Any Woman! ( Try These Today! )

Alright, a question I get all the time is, “what is the best way to start a conversation with a lady?” Let’s not say “lady,” let’s just say “girl” or “woman.” So, what is the best line I can use?

That’s a great question because if you have no idea what to say to a woman before you approach her, you’re likely to overthink, get nervous, and not say anything at all. That can be heartbreaking if you really liked the girl you saw and were attracted to her.

That’s why, in this article, I want to give you 7 tried-and-true ways to start a conversation with any woman you find attractive. Just pick and choose any of these seven easy openers, and you’re good to go. You’ll never miss a chance to talk to a woman you like ever again because you’ll have a line ready. So, pay attention, take notes, and read until the end because these seven openers are going to come in very handy.

Alright, let’s get started. Here are the seven tried-and-true ways to start a conversation with any girl you like. I took these from many people out there and from things that have worked on different women.

1). Ask This Disarming Question to Make Her Feel Comfortable Instantly

This is where you ask a very simple question just to get the ball rolling — something anyone can answer without hesitation or just say, “I don’t know.” For example, if you’re out on the streets and you spot a pretty girl walking by, you could go up to her and ask, “Hey, excuse me, do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?” A simple question anyone can ask—this is a disarming question.

If you’re at a networking event, party, or some social gathering and see someone you’re attracted to, you could ask a very simple question like, “Hey, do you know where the restroom is?” or “Hey, where’s the bar?” or “Do you know where we’re going next?” Or if you want to find something to eat, “I’m absolutely starving.”

These are simple things anyone can answer; it’s just an icebreaker. The real secret to making this method work is the follow-up. You can’t just ask a simple question, get an answer, and then walk away or expect her to carry on the conversation. You need to change topics and follow it up in a relaxed and casual manner.

If you’re out and you break into a conversation by asking for directions, after she gives you an answer, you could say, “Thanks, where are you from, by the way?” That’s like a segue or bridge. Let’s say she says, “I’m from Toronto.” You could reply, “Oh, that’s nice! I’m from Texas. My name is John, by the way. Nice to meet you.” And just like that, you’re in a conversation. It’s started, it’s on. Now you can drive it forward in any direction you like, get to know her better, ask for her number, and all that good stuff. It’s ridiculously simple, but it works like a charm every time.

2). The Prop-Based Opener: Use Her Favorite Things to Connect

This is where you comment on something a girl is holding or wearing, like a prop, or something in your shared environment. What you say could be a question or even just a statement.

For example, if you’re at an art gallery and you see a beautiful woman looking at a painting, you could walk up next to her and say, “Wow, that painting is amazing.” Given that you’re close to her and loud enough, she’ll definitely look at you and say something like, “Yeah, it is.” And that’s your opportunity to get into a conversation. You can turn to her and introduce yourself afterward, “Hey, I’m so-and-so, nice to meet you.” See how easy it is?

Another example could be if you notice a woman holding a drink at the bar. You could ask her, “So, what are you drinking? Is it good?” See how easy this is? It’s just like talking. There’s no need to be clever or quick on your feet. Just notice a prop, make a comment, and you’re good. That should be enough to break the ice.

3). The Situational Opener: Use Your Surroundings to Captivate Her Attention

This is quite similar to the prop-based opener. With the situational opener, all you need to do is comment on something that is happening around you both at that moment. These are all observations.

For example, if you’re at a bar and a rock band is playing, say something about it to her. It could be a question or a statement, like your opinion. For example, “Have you heard these guys play before?” or “It’s a bit loud in here, isn’t it?” Another example could be if you’re in a college classroom and the professor is giving a boring lecture, which happens quite often. You could talk to the girl right next to you and make a comment about how bored you are and what you wish you could do instead of attending class.

Once again, it’s such simple stuff, and I wish it were simpler. Any guy can do this. All you have to do is be observant and then open your mouth and speak up.

4). The Opinion Opener She Can’t Resist

This is a classic trick or way of starting a conversation. It’s a clever one. With an opinion opener, you go up to a woman and ask for her opinion or advice on something, which I find very engaging.

For example, if you’re standing in line at a coffee shop and you see someone you’re attracted to, you could ask her, “Hey, I’m new to this coffee shop. What are your recommendations on what I should order?” Or if you’re at a clothing store, you could pick up a shirt or something and go to the girl and say, “Hey, can I get your honest opinion? Would this look weird on me? Would I look weird in this shirt?”

Similarly, you could also put on two different colognes on each of your wrists and ask a girl, “Which one smells better?” That gets you touching and getting close. I mean, the sky’s the limit with opinion openers. You could ask anything you like. “Hey, have you ever watched the show Friends? Who do you like better, Joey or Chandler?”

Or, “Listen, I want your honest opinion on something: What do women really like? Do they like a bad boy, or do they like a gentleman?” I’m sure you can think of some yourself, and I encourage you to think of some yourself.

Remember, the point is to ask for advice or an opinion. Once you break the ice with that and get the girl talking, you can then introduce yourself, switch topics, and move on to other things. It’s just breaking in.

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5). Tap into Her Curiosity with a Playful Cold Read

This is a great one. A cold read is where you make a general statement about a woman’s personality, background, or emotional state. You’re “reading” her. The key phrase is “general statement.” You don’t want to get too specific because that’s really creepy. But general statements—let me show you how it works.

For example, if there’s a cute girl at your gym, you could walk up to her and make a generic guess about her background, like, “You don’t look like you’re from this neighborhood.” It’s very simple. Similarly, if you find a beautiful woman at a social event, you could walk up to her and make a cold read about her personality: “You seem like a creative girl; you definitely have an artistic vibe.” Or, if you see a cute girl walking in the streets, you could catch up to her and say something like, “Wow, you look really bored. What happened?” That’s a cold read about her emotional state or who she is.

Do you see how easy this is? You can use this on every woman. It’s a guessing game, basically. All you have to do is make a generic guess about the girl’s personality, background, or emotional state, and that’s it.

Now, the reason it works like magic is threefold. First, it’s different—it stands out. Hardly anyone starts a conversation with a cold read. Secondly, it’s highly personal, and whatever is personalized gets people’s attention. Finally, it sparks curiosity. If someone makes a random guess about you, you can’t help but wonder what made that other person think that way. Whether you’re right or wrong doesn’t matter. The very act of making the guess and telling it to her will grab her attention and pique her curiosity.

If you’re right, she’ll confirm it and probably ask, “How did you know that about me?” If you’re wrong, she’ll correct you and ask, “What made you think that?” Either way, she’ll be pulled into the conversation, and you’ve achieved what you wanted.

6). The Direct Opener That Shows Confidence and Charisma

This is by far the most classic, simplest, and most straightforward opener there is. It’s so easy to use, and it’s foolproof. With a direct opener, you just walk up to a woman, and you directly express your intention to her, whether it’s to start a conversation or to let her know you’re interested in her.

You don’t play any games here. You simply walk up to a woman and say, “Hey, I think you’re really cute, and I’d like to get to know you better.” Or, “Hey, you caught my eye, and I wanted to say hi. I’m John. Nice to meet you.” You could be very straightforward and honest with the girl. That’s all there is to it.

The only trick here is to have a smile on your face, look relaxed and calm, and keep eye contact with her. Now, a lot of guys find this one very intimidating, but if done correctly, this works.

You need to be very relaxed, be in a good mood, have a big smile, and have a non-threatening demeanor. You don’t want to scare the woman.

7). Make Her Smile: Why the Playful Tease Keeps Her Interested

This one is really effective if you have a fun and playful personality. It works best when you use light teasing or playful banter to start a conversation. For example, if you see a cute girl at a coffee shop and she orders a drink, you could walk up to her and say, “Really? You drink that?” with a playful smile. Or, if you see a girl in a gym doing bicep curls, you could say something like, “Are those little dumbbells too heavy for you?” Of course, your tone should be light, playful, and fun; otherwise, you might come off as rude. The key is to make her smile and laugh.

Alright, that’s it. Those are the seven tried-and-true ways to start a conversation with any woman you find attractive. I encourage you to go out, try them all, and see which one works best for you.