Many men feel that the act of approaching a woman, especially if she is a very beautiful stranger, is a difficult and embarrassing one. Not only that, they usually choose the wrong attitude of being too nice and overly openhanded with flowers, invitations for dinners, and expressing their lack of confidence and low self-esteem.
Women’s Perception of Insecure Men
Women, on their part, are not fascinated by insecure, hypocritical, wussy men. They will either decline him on the spot or, possibly more shockingly, take advantage of the situation by exploiting him to furnish her meal after meal, gift after gift, and normally go out with another man for real love, romance, and sex. In this situation, the woman has two men: a provider and a lover.
The Misstep of the “Good Boy” Approach
The good boy, fawning, wussy approach can often be seen when a man invites a woman to dance or offers to pay for her drink without first developing attraction or chemistry.
Is Cocky Rather Than Wussy the Answer?
The sweet boy attitude isn’t the best way, as we explained before, and acting really mean and rude will not succeed either. The best way, which has proven 90% of the time to work magically with women, is the confident, bold, cocky, and funny attitude.
In this tactic, you build the relationship on a give-and-take dynamic: a compliment and a bust (with a smile). You indicate to the woman that you’re confident enough to criticize her, you express yourself naturally around women, you are not scared of her, you are not concerned if she cares about you or not, you are honest and express your opinions openly, and you are playing the self-assured, hard-to-get, funny guy. Now you bring her self-confidence to the test, you challenge her, you intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let her chase you! You ought to be her prize, a reward for her hard-earned efforts in playing her cards right with you.
For instance, you start and say something like: “I like your jacket; it’s really nice” (a compliment), then comment: “But it doesn’t fit so well with your shoes, does it?” (a bust). You do it on purpose; you should practice it.
The Art of Being Confident and Playful
You must manipulate her like handing it to her and then taking it away at the last minute. Be spontaneous, unexpected, a teaser, and fascinating.
How would you know if she is interested in you?
It’s simpler than you believe and it goes like this: You engage with her: “What a beautiful pair of boots you’re wearing. I really like them.” She looks at who it is and then says: “Thank you.” You: “Aren’t you melting in them in such hot weather?” (smiling) “Or are you trying to hide your feet from me?” She: (smiling) “Hell no, I love them, that’s all. I’ll bet my feet are nicer compared to yours, Mr. Long Nose.” (She responded, therefore she is engaged too). You: “Wow, I understand you have a very good opinion about yourself, pretty lady. Why don’t we arrange a feet contest…”
The Importance of Keeping It Light and Fun
The crucial thing is to keep it going with a light, humorous, and fun attitude. Without ever even realizing it, you are both engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual attraction.
Avoiding the “Job Interview” Feel in Dating
When you start dating a woman, take into account that you are not on a job interview. Don’t make it feel like a series of questions and answers, don’t make it boring, and don’t try to show off. Talk with her about general stuff she understands and sympathizes with, such as popular TV shows. It may seem somewhat superficial at the beginning, but this is the way to go. Try to avoid, at least initially, talking about your problems at work or your relations with your parents.
Additional Insights on Building Attraction
Understanding the psychology behind these interactions can be crucial. Women often seek partners who exude confidence because it signals security and stability. When you mix humor with a bit of teasing, you create a dynamic where she feels both challenged and appreciated. This dual approach can ignite a woman’s interest far more effectively than any grandiose gestures or over-the-top compliments.
Moreover, it’s essential to be genuine. Authenticity is attractive. Women can sense when a man is putting on a facade, which can be a major turn-off. Instead, focus on being your best self – confident, engaging, and genuinely interested in getting to know her.
The Power of Non-Verbal Communication
Non-verbal cues play a significant role in attraction. Maintain good eye contact, use open body language, and smile. These small actions convey confidence and warmth, making you more approachable and interesting. Remember, sometimes what you don’t say is just as powerful as what you do say.
In conclusion, mastering the art of attraction involves a mix of confidence, humor, and authenticity. By being yourself and embracing these principles, you can create meaningful and engaging interactions with women, fostering genuine connections that go beyond superficial encounters.