we will discussing the concept of unpredictability. There are two layers to this idea: one is the unpredictability within yourself, and the other is the unpredictability compared to other people.
The Boredom of Predictability
Women often experience the same interactions repeatedly with cookie-cutter guys who do nothing unexpected. This predictability can lead to boredom. Occasionally, if you happen to be exactly her type, you might get away with being more predictable. However, even in those cases, I’ve witnessed participants in my boot camps approach a girl, only for her to lose interest as the conversation turns monotonous. For example, he might say, “So, where are you from?” to which she responds, “Oh, cool! I’ve heard of that city. It’s very nice. What do you do?”
The conversation may continue with predictable exchanges about her job or pets, quickly becoming tedious, and leading to a loss of attraction.
Stand Out: How to Differentiate Yourself
The first level of being unpredictable is differentiating yourself from other men. You need to avoid doing the same things she has experienced a thousand times, such as the typical, “Hey, you’re very beautiful,” followed by predictable small talk. If she has had that conversation before, it won’t trigger any excitement; instead, it will bore her.
Infusing Intensity: The Key to Intrigue
To counteract this, you can infuse intensity into your approach. For instance, instead of asking, “Where are you from?” in a monotone voice, you can say it in a commanding, challenging tone. When she responds, “Oh, I’m from Arkansas,” you can say, “Interesting.”
By utilizing a less common vocal tone rather than the typical nice guy approach, you become significantly less predictable and more intriguing.
Tonal Variations
There are a few tonalities you want to use effectively:
- Challenging: “Oh, Arkansas, huh? What do you do?”
- Fun: “That’s really cool you’re from Arkansas! So what do you do for fun?”
- Commanding: “Hey, let’s go to the dance floor. Why do you like me so much?”
The difference between challenging and commanding is subtle but essential. Challenging suggests you may not be sure you approve of her response, often carrying a smirking quality. On the other hand, a commanding tone exudes dominance and decisiveness.
Creating Intrigue
Switching between these tonalities makes you more intriguing and unpredictable. Most men tend to stick to a single way of speaking, which is often polite and somewhat submissive. They may ask, “Where are you from? What do you do? Oh, that’s nice,” resulting in very agreeable, one-dimensional conversations.
By mixing your tones, you create an environment where she is uncertain about what to expect next. She won’t know whether you’ll be positive and agreeable, challenge her, or take the lead in a commanding manner.
The Role of Predictability in Entertainment
Think about movies; the worst kind is one that is entirely predictable. Why do Netflix shows captivate viewers? Because each episode ends with an unexpected twist, compelling you to find out what happens next.
Unpredictable Dynamics: Hot and Cold Interactions
Another method to enhance unpredictability is to alternate between hot and cold dynamics. For example, if a girl mentions she is a nurse, you could say, “Oh my God, you’re a nurse! I love you right now.” Then, a few minutes later, when she reveals she is from Texas, you could playfully respond, “Oh, I hate you right now! I thought I loved you, but I guess I don’t.” This approach might sound simplistic, but it effectively creates a dynamic of hot and cold, making you unpredictable. You’re not expressing genuine dislike; instead, you’re throwing her off balance.
The Power of Simple Techniques
Every guy who approaches her tends to pursue her relentlessly, so when you introduce unexpected comments, like pointing out a “red flag” or simply saying “interesting” with a disapproving look, it alters the typical interaction dynamic.
It’s beneficial to have something simple to rely on, like the “I love you, I hate you” technique. It’s easy to remember and once you’ve practiced this a few times, you’ll develop your own creative lines. This becomes possible only when you get comfortable with establishing a hot and cold dynamic.
Non-Verbal Communication
This unpredictability isn’t limited to verbal communication; you can also create a hot and cold dynamic non-verbally. For instance, anything that creates a positive experience—like maintaining strong eye contact, being physically close, and offering touches—can be considered “hot.” In contrast, looking away, seeming disinterested, or distancing yourself physically is perceived as “cold.”
The Impact of Physical Dynamics
Interestingly, when you’re in bed with a girl, one of the simplest ways to heighten her arousal is to escalate your physical interaction and then pull back. For example, you might start with making out, then kiss her neck, and afterward, shift your focus back to the movie. She might expect you to keep escalating, but when you pull away, it makes her wonder: “Does he not want me? Am I not desirable? Does he not want to have sex? Why did he pull away?” This creates a role reversal, prompting her to chase you and think about how to entice you back.
Mix Hot and Cold
In general, it’s important to mix hot and cold dynamics. You might feel that this approach seems insincere, especially if you consider yourself nice, agreeable, and positive. However, if you’re genuinely unselfish, you should embrace unpredictability. What’s truly selfish is being predictable, overly nice, and boring, as this leads to women losing interest.
Create Positive Experiences
By being unpredictable, you create a positive experience, inciting excitement and attraction. Consider writing a movie where the main character never faces challenges or struggles; it might sound appealing, but it would ultimately be dull. The unpredictability, the struggle, and the ebb and flow of experiences make stories engaging and relatable.
Conclusion: The Benefits of Unpredictability
The same principle applies to seduction. If you maintain an agreeable demeanor throughout, you may not be entirely honest, and you may miss the opportunity to express your true self. High-status men are naturally unpredictable; they have strong boundaries and are willing to express their thoughts, even if they might be a bit offensive.
When you observe a guy who is naturally skilled with women, you’ll notice he playfully teases, doesn’t agree with everything she says, and doesn’t place her on a pedestal. Unpredictability is one of the most potent ways to convey that you are a high-status man rather than a low-status one.
Low-status men tend to be predictable because they feel the need to be agreeable and nice. In contrast, high-status men are comfortable expressing their true feelings and teasing. By employing the techniques discussed in this video as a crutch, you can become accustomed to being unpredictable. Over time, as it becomes more natural, you won’t need those crutches anymore; you’ll be able to express unpredictability in a more authentic way. However, this transformation requires stepping out of your comfort zone and engaging in behavior that may feel unnatural initially.
While this may not sound appealing, failing to embrace unpredictability will keep you locked into patterns that lead women to view you as just a friend—someone with low status rather than a high-status man they might be interested in.
