If there was one magic pill that you could pop to make yourself more attractive to women, would you take it?
Chances are, most men would give an answer with a resounding yes. After all, who has the time to keep up with the countless dating advice and tips handed out by dating gurus who promise that by doing what they tell you, women would come in droves begging you to let them bear your children?
But since reality bites, no such pill exists. And the male species, since the beginning of civilization, has been working on making himself the object of interest and attention of his female counterparts. Even now, in this age of dating websites and speed dating, the objective has not changed.
So why is it that some guys seem to get it right all the time while the rest seem to remain luckless no matter what they do? Some would say that looks and appearances have everything to do with it. But that’s not entirely true.
How To Attract Women With Your Attitude
While it may be so that how a guy looks matters in order to catch a woman’s attention, that alone will not make him totally attractive. What makes the guy go from “Hi there. You alone?” to “Good morning, doll.” is his attitude.
Attitude, by definition, is your outlook and mindset towards any given situation. In the dating scenario, it would mean how you behave and think when it comes to approaching a woman, chatting up a conversation with her, and treating her just a tad more special than the rest of the women in the room.
So what kind of attitude should you have?
A lot of guys think that they need to impress women to make themselves attractive. While making an impression is important, you need to make sure that that impression is really you. Otherwise, your attitude towards dating shows that you would rather make false impressions and basically lie, just so that you can get what you want. Not exactly an attractive trait, isn’t it?
Instead, develop the “just as I am” attitude. No pretenses, no airs – just what you really are. Very little anything else makes one more attractive to women than to see a guy that’s totally honest about who and what he is.
But hold on, that is not to say that you should totally let yourself go. The “just as I am” attitude does not mean not bothering to dress up in nice clothes just because you are more of a shorts-and-flip-flops kind of guy.
Not in the least. In fact, the “as is” attitude should stay in the backstage. The main idea is that you don’t need to pretend to be the sensitive writer type when you’re more of a Monday night football kind of guy. But at the same time, you need to make an effort to put your best foot forward.
Do this by taking the time to look your best. You don’t need to look like Hugh Jackman’s long-lost twin, but don’t look (and smell) like a bum either. Take the time to choose clothes that fit well on you. Pay attention to body hygiene, especially if you tend to sweat, and don’t forget to check your breath as well. But more importantly, work on making this a habit rather than a once-in-a-while thing. That alone increases your attractive points by a whole lot.
Now that you’ve cleaned and dressed up, it’s time to work that attitude. For example, as you approach someone, tell yourself that all you need to do to get her interested is to be friendly and treat her well. You don’t need to impress her with things that aren’t true about you. Remember, you are to come as you are and not someone else.
If she responds, then good for you. If she doesn’t seem to be interested regardless of how nice you are, that’s still ok. If this happens, tell yourself that you and she don’t fit and then walk away. At the very least, the woman you just approached will notice that you knew when to stop. Surprisingly, on a second encounter, she just might give you a better chance just because you showed restraint the first time you met.
Now this isn’t a foolproof plan that can help you score with the ladies. But it is a lot better than pretending to be something that isn’t you. Developing a healthy, confident attitude about yourself will not only make you more attractive to the right women around you but will also help you personally as you begin to see yourself in a better light.
Building a Genuine Connection
A key aspect of making genuine connections with women is to approach interactions with an open mind. Be genuinely curious about her life, interests, and values. This interest should be more than just a way to impress; it should be a sincere attempt to understand her as a person.
Engage in meaningful conversations. Avoid surface-level topics and strive for depth. Talk about things that matter to both of you and share your own thoughts and experiences honestly. Authenticity in these conversations fosters a deeper connection and shows that you value her as more than just a potential partner.
Being an Active Listener
Another crucial element is active listening. When she speaks, really listen to what she’s saying. Show that you’re engaged by asking follow-up questions and reflecting on her points. Active listening demonstrates that you respect her opinions and are genuinely interested in her.
Acknowledge her feelings and perspectives. Even if you don’t fully agree, validating her emotions can create a supportive and understanding atmosphere. This level of emotional connection often enhances your attractiveness by making her feel valued and heard.
Developing Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is also a significant factor. Understanding your own emotions and those of others can improve your interactions. It helps in managing responses, showing empathy, and navigating complex social dynamics effectively.
Work on being aware of how your actions and words affect others. This awareness can lead to more thoughtful and considerate behavior, which is incredibly appealing to potential partners.
Maintaining Balance
Lastly, maintain a balance between your dating life and other aspects of your life. Having a well-rounded life where you’re engaged in hobbies, work, and social activities not only makes you more interesting but also demonstrates that you’re not solely focused on dating.
A balanced life reflects confidence and independence, qualities that are highly attractive. It shows that you have a fulfilling life outside of the relationship and that you’re seeking a partner to enhance your life rather than complete it.
In summary, while there may be no magic pill to make yourself more attractive to women, focusing on genuine self-presentation, meaningful interactions, and emotional intelligence can significantly improve your appeal. Embrace who you are, work on presenting your best self, and engage with sincerity. These steps will help you attract the right women and build genuine connections.
