All humans, especially women, say they want their partner to be honest. Is this the truth? Can you keep a relationship up and running if you are telling the truth all the time?
The Art of White Lies in Relationships
Imagine that you just have brought your girlfriend home to spend the night together for the first time. You have made a great effort to arrange and clean your home, especially the bedroom. You are proud of this and ask your partner what she believes about your home.
She responds, “It is a little old-fashioned… and something smells bad in here.” Oops! Okay.
You two pass through this awkward moment, then you start kissing each other, but you make a joke about… the size of your penis, and instead of hearing the most used reply: “Hey, relax, size really doesn’t matter,” she tells you that her ex was quite huge.
Oops… Not again. 🙂
If she were to say just two little lies, everything could be great, but now…
Why Little Lies Matter
The truth is, telling a few lies can be one of the best ways to keep your relationship healthy.
So if you want to keep her happy and keep getting laid, you’re going to have to learn how to lie – and lie convincingly. The trick is figuring out what she wants to hear.
Rule #1: Never Mention Your Sexual Past
Never mention your sexual past, especially if it was a good one. If your girlfriend asks you what it was like or how good your ex was, you can tell a lie if you have to. Say it wasn’t all that good. Don’t ever mention her. Even if what you’re saying is uncomplimentary, it will still have a negative effect. You bringing her up hints that she’s still on your mind.
Rule #2: Compliment Her Looks
When it comes to how she looks, if you picked her to be your partner, you have to make her feel that she is a WOMAN. Every woman has something beautiful, something sexy and attractive, and if you make her know that you find her attractive, she will be more confident, wilder, and more passionate. But when she asks you about something you don’t really like about her look, never, but never, tell her your true opinion. Just say that it is okay and pass over the moment. If you are telling her that you don’t like something about her, she will feel frustrated and become more inhibited.
Rule #3: Be Sensitive to Her Feelings
Everybody knows that women have more sensibility than men. So pay attention to her sensibility and don’t make bad jokes about other people (especially her family) or let her know when you are up to take the cat and throw it out the window. She will find you insensitive, and you will lose points. Use your common sense and try not to hurt your woman’s feelings even if you have to say a little lie from time to time.
Balancing Truth and Lies
Overall, lying is a bad thing to do. But when it comes to women, you really have no choice. The little white lies don’t hurt anyone and are only meant as reassurance every now and then. It’s therefore okay to tell a person what they want to hear.
The Importance of Reassurance
Reassurance is very critical in any relationship. Each person wants to feel special and crucially needed in love. There will come a time when a white lie should be uttered to keep the other partner at peace and happy with the relationship. It is about balancing truth and tact.
The Role of Empathy in Lying
Empathy helps in knowing how to lie and when to lie. It allows understanding a partner’s feelings and perspective, which helps when tact is required in telling a lie. For example, empathy will lead to lying with good intentions, thus sooths your partner’s feelings.
Understanding the Impact of Lies
Though lying can be good in tiny lies that make the relationship smooth, one needs to know the effects. Small lies, when told frequently, may add up and give birth to trust issues. Tell as few lies as possible, only when they really help the relationship.
When You Should Speak the Truth
There are times when honesty is the best policy. For big things that will directly impact the very foundation of your relationship, you need to tell the truth. You see, trust is built with honesty, and for love to last, there needs to be a foundation of trust upon which it can grow and evolve over time.
Communication is Key
Open communication is very important in any relationship. Surely, small lies will grease the wheels of minor issues, but honest and open dialogue about feelings, expectations, and concerns is necessary. It is all about balance.
The Psychology Behind Lying
Understanding the psychology behind why we lie, in general, will help manage it better. Many a time, lying is a defense mechanism to avoid conflict or protect someone’s feelings. Recognizing this will help you be more conscious about when and why you choose to lie.
Cultural Perspectives on Lying
Lying in relationships is viewed differently in different cultures. White lies in some cultures are looked at as something ordinary, while in others, honesty was put at a very high premium. Knowing your partner’s cultural background can be very helpful in this regard, too.
Building Trust Through Small Acts
Even though lying is sometimes permissible, trust must be built through small acts of kindness and honesty in every possible way. Demonstrate that your spouse can be sure of you, and your relationship will be much stronger because of it.
Conclusion
In relationships, the line between truth and lies can be blurry. While honesty is crucial, small lies, when used sparingly and with good intentions, can help maintain harmony and happiness. It’s all about balance, empathy, and understanding the unique dynamics of your relationship.
FAQs
1. Is it ever okay to lie in a relationship? Yes, small lies can be okay if they are meant to protect your partner’s feelings and maintain harmony in the relationship.
2. How can I balance honesty and lying in my relationship? Balance honesty and lying by being truthful about significant issues but allowing for small lies when they help reassure and protect your partner’s feelings.
3. Can lying harm my relationship? Frequent lies can build up and lead to trust issues, so use lies sparingly and only when necessary.
4. Why do people lie in relationships? People often lie to avoid conflict, protect their partner’s feelings, or provide reassurance. It’s a defense mechanism to maintain harmony.
5. How can I build trust in my relationship? Build trust through consistent acts of kindness, honesty, and open communication. Show your partner they can rely on you.
