Women often say they’re looking for a ‘good man’ they can love. And while that’s certainly true on some level, there’s more to the story. Love is a beautiful thing, no doubt about it, but women are usually drawn to other traits and characteristics before love even has a chance to develop. The reality is that what attracts a woman to a man hasn’t changed much from what it was thousands or even millions of years ago. So, what is it that really draws a woman to a man?
One thing is clear: women respect and are drawn to a man who works hard. This quality is often more important to them than almost any other trait. When a man isn’t afraid of putting in the effort, a woman knows she’ll be taken care of. A man who’s willing to put in long hours is seen as tenacious and reliable. On some level, women understand that a man who works hard is someone who can provide stability, especially in financial terms. Simply put, a hardworking man is attractive to women, whether they realize it consciously or not.
But hard work isn’t the only thing women look for in a man. Here are some other traits and characteristics that are high on the list:
- Commitment: Women want to know that a man is serious about their future together. A man who shows commitment is a man who’s looking ahead, and that’s something women value deeply.
- Mastery: A man who has a strong sense of personal, social, and business mastery is incredibly attractive. Kindness, too, is seen as almost irresistible. A man who’s competent and compassionate is a winning combination.
- Good with kids: Interestingly, women often mention that they like a man who is good with kids. It’s a sign that he’s nurturing and capable of taking care of others.
- Financial stability: How important is money? Study after study shows that women prefer to be with a man who makes a good living. Women thrive on security and stability, and financial comfort is a big part of that equation.
- Caring nature: Lastly, women want a man who genuinely cares for them and, if they have children, cares for their kids as well. A man who shows empathy and concern for others is highly attractive.
Now, what about men? What is it that they find irresistible in women?
For many men, physical attractiveness is the first thing that catches their eye. This doesn’t mean that if a woman isn’t a supermodel, she has no chance at happiness. But it does mean that, initially, physical appearance is often the number one trait men notice. Men are largely driven by their sexual desires, which is no surprise. In fact, Napoleon Hill, one of history’s greatest success philosophers, pointed out years ago that many successful men have strong sexual desires. However, men who focus solely on these desires often don’t achieve lasting success. A key element of a man’s success is his ability to channel that sexual energy into productive pursuits.
So, how do we know what physical attractiveness means to a man?
Men and women think differently, and that’s a fact. For example, in mathematical terms, men are often attracted to women with a waist-to-hip ratio of about 0.7. This means if you divide a woman’s waist measurement by her hip measurement, a number between 0.6 and 0.8 is usually considered attractive. This ratio represents the bottom half of the hourglass figure that many men find appealing.
But a man doesn’t need a measuring tape to figure this out. He just knows what he’s drawn to when he sees it. He’s wired to look for a certain shape, and this waist-to-hip ratio is part of that shape. (Interestingly, women also have their own physical filters; for example, they often unconsciously filter out men whose waists are larger than their hips.)
That said, while physical attractiveness is a significant factor in what initially draws a man to a woman, it’s not the only thing that matters. There’s more to building a lasting connection than just looks, and as both men and women come to understand this, they’re better able to create deeper, more meaningful relationships.
