A huge part of attracting and seducing a woman happens before the two of you even speak. I would say probably 90%! Women want certain things from a man, and it is your job to present them. Better than presenting certain characteristics is actually being someone who has these characteristics!
It’s not unusual to be walking down the street and see an “ugly” man with a beautiful woman. At first, it’s shocking—seeing this big-bellied, short, bald man with a beauty. But if you were to meet this man, you’d see he has plenty to offer.
Think about the first step of the four-part progression: Put yourself in her line of sight and show the traits she wants to see (Alpha male traits). She has made up most of her mind about you before you ever speak to her.
The Big Problem for Most Men
The big problem for most men is that they are average in every way. They may be ugly, but they’re also lacking in many other key areas. This is the trick that the “ugly” guy has up his sleeve. He knows how to adapt the right personality, attitude, and mindset to date beautiful women.
Here are some reasons why he can get the girl while you can’t.
Reason #1: He Doesn’t Believe He Needs to Be Good-Looking
The “ugly” guy doesn’t believe that women will ever like him for his good looks. He knows he needs to master other skills. He shows her that he is exciting and fun to be around. He has great social skills. This impresses her friends and her family.
He understands the power of personality. He knows that women are looking for something deeper than a pretty face. He engages her mind. He captivates her with his wit, charm, and humor. This makes him memorable.
He also works on being the kind of guy she can trust. He is consistent in his actions. He shows up when he says he will. He proves to her that he is reliable, and that makes him stand out. The ugly guy is not just an option; he becomes the best option.
The good-looking guy assumes that every woman should like him just because of his looks. This means he will lack in other areas. Some guys will try to buy her love with money, gifts, and favors. That’s fine—as long as you want a girlfriend that uses you for those reasons.
But here’s the truth: Women are smart. They can see through these superficial tactics. They crave authenticity. They want someone who can make them feel valued without the need for material things. That’s what the “ugly” guy understands and why he often wins.
Reason #2: She Likes Who He Is
People like people who like them for who they are. People also like people for who they are. What I mean is that the “ugly” guy makes her feel good. She likes him for making her feel good.
He’s genuine in his compliments. He doesn’t just say, “You look nice.” He tells her why he thinks she’s amazing. He pays attention to the little things. The way she laughs, her passion for life, how she carries herself with confidence. These small details make her feel truly appreciated.
Unlike many men, he doesn’t try to fit into a mold of what he thinks she wants. He is unapologetically himself. This confidence in being who he truly is resonates with her. It’s refreshing. It’s different. And it’s powerful.
Other men will try to trick her into liking them. They’ll buy her things and do her favors. It’s more rewarding for her when she doesn’t feel forced into liking him.
Good-looking guys have a problem trying to attract women with favors and material things. Being a shoulder to cry on isn’t the same as being the guy she gets to cry over. Which guy would you rather be?
She knows when a guy is trying too hard. She can sense desperation. The “ugly” guy, though, is relaxed. He’s not trying to win her over with tricks. He’s just being real. And that’s what makes all the difference.
Reason #3: Ugly Men Go After What They Want
Successful people don’t make excuses for their failures.
“I’m too fat!” “I don’t make enough money.” “I’m not good-looking enough.” This screams failure and low self-esteem. It’s all true if you believe it.
“Ugly” men don’t think like this. They surround themselves with positive people and have a great attitude. “I have so much to offer a woman.” “There are so many great women to meet.” “Which girl should I approach first?” This attitude allows them to go after what they want and feel good about themselves.
He approaches women without hesitation. He doesn’t let fear hold him back. He knows he has something valuable to offer, and he acts like it. Confidence is contagious, and she picks up on it immediately.
He doesn’t wait for the perfect moment. He creates it. He takes action, seizes opportunities, and shows her he’s a man who knows what he wants and goes after it. This kind of energy is magnetic.
When he’s around her, he doesn’t just talk about himself. He asks questions. He’s genuinely interested in who she is. He makes her feel seen and heard. That’s why she feels a connection with him, even if he isn’t the best-looking guy in the room.
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Reason #4: Ugly Men Enjoy Being Men
So many men nowadays are afraid of being men. They don’t want to put a woman in her place when she gets a little sassy. It’s time for you to get over it.
“Ugly” men are putting women in their place. This makes her more submissive to him.
He isn’t afraid to speak his mind. He knows that being a man is not about dominating but about being authentic. He’s comfortable in his skin, and he doesn’t apologize for who he is.
He challenges her, too. He knows that women don’t want a pushover. They want a man who stands his ground. He has no problem disagreeing or voicing his own opinions. This shows her that he is strong and confident.
He makes her feel secure. He’s stable, steady, and reliable. She feels safe around him, not because he is aggressive, but because he’s solid. This security is what she finds attractive, and it’s why she stays with him.
Reason #5: Ugly Men Are Upfront About Who They Are
You must sincerely want to improve yourself as a person. Not so you can get more dates. The dates will be a byproduct of your foundation.
Ironically, this is less about women and more about you. It is a fact that when you are just living your wonderful life, as opposed to going out and chasing women, you will attract more women.
The “ugly” guy doesn’t pretend to be someone he’s not. He’s upfront about who he is, his flaws, his strengths, and his desires. There are no games, no pretenses. Women find this honesty refreshing.
He doesn’t hide behind a mask. He’s real from the start. This makes her feel like she knows who she’s dealing with. There are no surprises. No guessing games. Just two people being themselves. That’s where true connections are made.
I know I’m harping on foundation and self-awareness a lot here, but it’s because it’s so crucial and really a “deal-breaker.” You need to master your inner game to truly succeed.
Reason #6: They Are Fearless in Flirting
“Ugly” men are fearless. They know they aren’t relying on looks, so they aren’t afraid to flirt boldly. They make her laugh, smile, and feel desired. Their approach is different because they aren’t afraid of rejection.
They know how to tease playfully, how to maintain eye contact without flinching, and how to make her blush with just a few words. They know the art of flirting. They aren’t afraid to show their interest, and this boldness catches her attention.
Women love this confidence. It’s refreshing and attractive. It sets the “ugly” guy apart from all the other men who hesitate, worrying about what she will think.
He understands that flirting is not about trying too hard. It’s about having fun. He knows how to play the game without seeming desperate. And she can’t help but respond to that kind of energy.
Reason #7: They Make Her the Center of Attention
They make her feel like the only woman in the room. The “ugly” man knows how to make her feel special, valued, and heard. He gives her attention that is genuine and focused.
Unlike good-looking men, who may feel entitled to attention, the “ugly” guy works to earn it. He listens. He understands. He cares about what she thinks and feels, making her feel important and cherished.
He remembers the little details. Her favorite book. The way she takes her coffee. He makes her feel like a priority, not an option. And she loves it.
By making her feel this way, he creates a bond that’s hard to break. He wins her heart, not by looks but by making her feel like the most special woman in the world.
These are just a few reasons why “ugly” men end up with the girl, while the good-looking ones scratch their heads in confusion. It’s all about understanding what truly matters. Looks fade, but confidence, charm, and authenticity last a lifetime.
