The hooked and booked man is like a forbidden temptation. That’s what makes him irresistibly attractive to a woman. He stirs a challenge in her. She feels a sense of power in attracting a man who is already taken. What makes him the catch for her is his confidence, experience, and authority. The excitement stems from the fact that he’s already taken.
The golden rule here is: you want what you can’t have. Soon, this man becomes an overwhelming obsession for a woman. I call it the ‘forbidden fruit obsession’.
Why Women Fall for Married Men
According to me, there are two reasons for women falling for married men. Firstly, wild attraction. And secondly, vulnerability. For a woman, a married man represents a certain security she craves. A woman feels that a married man—compared to a bachelor—can meet her emotional and material needs in a better manner. Getting a married man signifies a triumph of one woman over another woman. He’s a trophy catch. To have him, is about making the impossible, possible.
If a woman wanted a fling, she could have had it with anybody. But a married man at her beck and call makes her value herself more… that he’s willing to throw it all over for her. It increases her self-esteem. Mind you, she’s enjoying this fantasy as much as his wooing, his experience, and the way he makes her feel extra special.
Sometimes, she likes the fact that he doesn’t go weak in the knees in front of her. He’s a symbol of authority. This relationship is about adventure and fun. But this is dangerous fun. There’s a risk of ruining another person’s life.
The Dangerous Thrill of the Forbidden
Married men love playing games. They give out the vibe – ‘I’m married but I’m game’. Married men are always on the lookout for fun. These are men on the prowl. For a woman, it might be difficult to resist the vibes of attraction from a married man. He makes himself so indispensable.
A married man can give you a great time. There are times when this forbidden attraction transforms into love and romance, especially if the man doesn’t have a happy marriage. Not all married men are jerks; some even leave their wives and get married to women they love. But the fact is, men and women love playing power games with each other. This is a dangerous game. It can take you through highs and lows like you’ve never experienced. Human beings are fragile, and one learns from trial and error. So, you have to decide whether it is a viable option to have a relationship with a married man.
Why Married Men Are So Confident
The appeal of a married man often lies in his confidence. He has navigated the complexities of a relationship, possibly a long-term one, and this gives him an air of authority. A woman may be attracted to his experience, feeling that he understands relationships better than a single man. This understanding makes him a master of wooing. He knows how to make a woman feel special, how to say the right things, and how to maintain an air of mystery that keeps her intrigued.
Moreover, the fact that he’s already in a committed relationship makes him more desirable. There’s a sense of security that comes with a married man—he’s already proven that he can commit, that he can provide both emotionally and materially. For some women, this is the ultimate attraction. They see him as a reliable protector, someone who can meet their needs in ways that a single man might not.
The Game of Power
When a woman engages with a married man, she’s not just entering into a relationship—she’s entering into a power game. The thrill of winning a man away from another woman can be intoxicating. It’s not just about the man himself; it’s about what he represents. To win him over is to win a prize, an affirmation of her worth and desirability. It is an assurance that she is special, that she is worthy of his attention and affection.
But it is also a very dangerous game to play. The power play will bring up extreme emotions, both good and bad. There’s that high of knowing she’s won his attention, but also the low of knowing at any instance she could lose him. Such a rollercoaster can be exhilarating, but it can be devastating.
The Risks Involved
Being involved with a married man is a very risky thing. There is the risk of being caught, hurting others, and even leaving your self heartbroken in case things do not go as anticipated. What may have started off like an innocuous flirtation soon spirals into something much more serious.
Moreover, there’s the risk that the relationship will never go beyond a certain point. Many married men are not looking to leave their wives; they’re looking for a temporary escape, a bit of fun on the side. This can leave the woman feeling used and discarded once the thrill wears off. The fantasy may be fun while it lasts, but the reality can be harsh.
When Fantasy Meets Reality
It’s important to remember that not all relationships with married men end in disaster. Some men do leave their wives and start new lives with the women they’ve fallen in love with. But these cases are the exception, not the rule. More often than not, the relationship is doomed from the start. The excitement of the forbidden eventually gives way to the reality of the situation, and both parties are left to pick up the pieces.
In some cases, the woman may find herself unable to let go, clinging to the hope that the man will eventually choose her. This can lead to a cycle of heartbreak and disappointment as she watches him return to his wife time and time again. It’s a painful experience, one that can leave lasting scars.
Is It Worth It?
So, is it worth it? Is the thrill of being with a married man worth the risks? That’s a question only you can answer. Every relationship is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. But it’s important to go into the situation with your eyes open, aware of the potential consequences. The fantasy may be intoxicating, but the reality can be brutal.
In the end, it’s about what you want out of the relationship. If you’re looking for a bit of fun, then maybe it’s worth the risk. But if you’re looking for something more serious, you might want to think twice before getting involved with a man who’s already committed to someone else. Remember, the forbidden fruit may taste sweet, but it often comes with a bitter aftertaste.
